Weed and Porn Addiction

This is an extract from an email from Franco de Stefano (name changed) who wrote to us recently about his problem with marijuana and pornography.

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While not physically addictive – weed and porn create a heady cocktail that is hard to give up

“I have been smoking weed since I was 16. At first it was just once or twice a week. But it soon became more regular. Nowadays, it’s pretty much all day every day and I get through a frightening amount and it’s starting to get expensive.

I started looking at pornography regularly a bit later at 18 but this was when we got wireless broadband and I had a laptop I could take to my room. I think I used porn to cope with the bad feelings I feel or the negative emotions. Marijuana is exactly the same, it’s something to lift me up when I’m feeling down. However, I think I have used these unhealthy ways of dealing with bad things a bit too much.

And then when I was 18 I started going with prostitutes. I sometimes see a prostitute once a week but I try to cut it back to once or twice a month. It’s still something I feel bad about but it’s something I don’t seem able to stop. I don’t go out much as I don’t like to go outside when I’m stone as I get paranoid. But I manage to overcome the paranoid feelings in order to go with prostitutes.

I’ve dropped out of one college since leaving school I’m trying to get into another college and hoping to hell that going back to full time education is going to sort me out once and for all.

I will start at 10 smoking joint after joint and watching pornography and not stop until 10 in the evening.

I’ve broken up with two girlfriends, one after a 2 year relationship. I would love a girlfriend right now but I don’t feel capable of going with anybody while I have these habits.”

We would like to thank Franco for writing in to share these experiences with us.

What weed and pornography addiction can do to you

As we have repeatedly written on this site – we don’t want to tell anyone to stop smoking marijuana. We are here for people who want to give up weed. We also don’t want to get embroiled in the arguments about whether weed is addictive or not. Certainly for some people it isn’t. Certainly it isn’t physically addictive like alcohol or other drugs.

However, for certain people, weed does seem to be psychologically addictive and can quite quickly cause very depressive and repetitive actions to take hold and be extremely hard to quit. The watching and use of pornography for sustained periods is an example of one such action.

Again, we don’t want to be embroiled in an argument on the rights and wrongs of pornography. However, it seems certain that prolonged and repetitive use of pornography for long, long periods of time is bad for any human being’s self confidence.

Something that comes up again and again in the emails we receive is a lack of self-confidence or a lowering of self worth. This is usually expressed by young people at the prime of their lives who are frightened to go outside and lack the most basic of social skills for no other reason than a recreational drug habit.

Franco feels alone. He feels, understandably, that he can’t talk to his family about his problem. Like a lot of heavy weed-smokers he is gradually distancing himself from his family.

He feels stuck in a horrible repetitive cycle of depression and self-disgust.

What you can do about porn and marijuana overuse

You must first realise that this may be a slow process. You can try to just wake up one day and stop smoking weed and stop watching porn but it’s likely that your endorphine and serotonin levels will be so low which will cause depression from which you will seek an anti-dote – more weed and porn.

Try to wake up each morning and, before smoking that first spliff, sit down and spend some time alone with yourself for 5-10 minutes. Close your eyes, breathe deeply and learn to love yourself again.

Count your breaths from 1 to 10 and then start at 1 again. Try not to think of anything else but the breathing.

Then, when you are at your most relaxed state make positive and loving affirmations to yourself.

If you would like to know more about this then please enter your email address into the form below and I’ll send you some more information about meditation and self-hypnosis. Or you can read more here about using meditation and self-hypnosis to fight porn addiction.

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  1. hi, im in the same problem, its so sad to feel like that 🙁

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